Dear Heart, Let’s Heal… Beginning Again After Divorce
Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage — it unravels a tapestry.
A tapestry of love, effort, shared dreams, disappointments, laughter, and long silences. And when it all comes undone, you’re left holding the threads that once held it together — some beautiful, some bitter — wondering what to do with it all.
But please know from someone who’s been where you are:
You are not crazy for feeling everything all at once. Love and resentment. Relief and regret. Hope and heartbreak. Fear and freedom.
Grief is rarely tidy. And when it comes to divorce, it’s especially complicated.
Divorce Is a Complex Loss
Divorce is not a single loss — it’s a collection of losses:
The loss of a partner, yes… but also the loss of the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.
The loss of routines, roles, and the comfort of familiarity — even if things weren’t always good.
The loss of a shared future you envisioned — anniversaries, travel plans, growing old together.
The loss of a family unit, especially if children or in-laws are involved.
The loss of our perception of safety — financial, emotional, or spiritual — that you built over years.
And because these losses are mixed in with moments of deep love, joyful memories, and even laughter… it can be disorienting.
How do you grieve someone you still care about — or once loved deeply — even if they hurt you? How do you let go of a life that wasn’t working, while still mourning what it meant to you? How do you move forward when part of your heart still wonders, “What if…?”
The answer isn’t found in rushing forward or numbing the pain. The answer begins with honoring all that you feel.
You’re Allowed to Grieve the Good Parts, Too
Too often, we think healing after divorce means only focusing on what went wrong. But…
You’re allowed to grieve the sweet memories, even if the relationship had to end.
You’re allowed to miss your partner sometimes, even if they broke your heart.
You’re allowed to feel confused, even if you were the one who initiated the separation.
There’s no shame in having mixed emotions. That’s not a sign of weakness. That’s a sign of being beautifully human.
Healing Means Making Peace with the Complexity
Healing doesn’t mean having all the answers and it doesn’t mean tying everything up in a pretty bow.
Healing means learning how to hold space for the full truth of your experience — the pain, the love, the anger, the relief, the hope — without judging, criticizing or analyzing yourself.
It means choosing, again and again, to come back to yourself, to tend to your heart and ask: “What do I need today to feel grounded, whole, accepted and loved on — by me?”
Begin Again with Grace
You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin again. You only need to take one emboldened step at a time.
And I want to support you in doing just that…
To begin your healing you can start with a gentle, free resource that speaks directly to the heart:
Download my complimentary guide: Dear Heart, Let’s Heal: A Gentle Guide to Reclaiming Your Peace Inside, you’ll find heartfelt reflections and exercises to help you reconnect with your inner strength, release emotional residue, and lovingly take your next step. 👉 Access Here
And if you’re ready for a deeper level of support…
Let’s have a heart-to-heart discovery call. You don’t have to do this alone. Together, we can explore what kind of healing support feels right for you.
📞 Call: 470-588-5080 or Email: monetfc@myonebeautifullife.com
You are allowed to heal slowly. Acknowledge what you’re feeling and remember you are worthy of a life that feels safe, whole, and beautifully yours — no matter what came before.
From my heart to yours, Monet
Monet Farr Cole, Life Transitions Strategist | Grief Recovery Specialist
My One Beautiful Life Inc.